Meet people where they are at AND bring in the principles

Henk Kok

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This was an email to Brett but I figured it deserves a separate forum post:

I noticed that someone recently wrote a book about communication and leadership.
It had 27 tips that the book presented. I`m sure they're great tips.

The response to that book is pretty good, people get it, want to improve something, and buy the book.

I think perhaps, in starting with the most general way about the principles is actually hurting the message, at least on the invitation part. Reason being is that it takes a looong time to get a sense for their use, and only those who find those, and KEEP tracking the principle get the actual benefits. Everybody else, I imagine, just wonders how this relates to them, can't see it yet, and trail off.

This TED talk for example shows a very clear case why people 'seem' to be unhappy even when they get more choices. The talk sais: The key to happiness is low expectations. If you expect nothing you'll be pleasantly surprised and you won't go and compare your endless choices that you could've had. (link to ted talk, no need to watch, just wanted to make it available:
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I thought immediatly of the neutrality of the principles that completely undermine that line of thinking. But I would not write an article about the neutrality of the principles, I would write an article about happiness and choice and THEN use that deep layer of the principles as my logical backbone.

Meet people where their at with their wants/needs/desires but make the point on a principled level, creating a seamless transition from their wants and needs to rock solid universal answers.

I think talking about real life issues like choice, relationships, deadlines etc is a great way to connect with an audience on a struggle level that they're dealing with AND Bring in the principles as well. It could be a book about relationships, a video about deadlines, etc etc. I think we need way more of that out there because most advice on this is just plain non principled and thus less helpful than it can be.


Further thoughts Very welcome. and if this line of thinking helps you, please use it for yourself.
 

Brett Chitty

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I thought immediatly of the neutrality of the principles that completely undermine that line of thinking. But I would not write an article about the neutrality of the principles, I would write an article about happiness and choice and THEN use that deep layer of the principles as my logical backbone.

Meet people where their at with their wants/needs/desires but make the point on a principled level, creating a seamless transition from their wants and needs to rock solid universal answers.

I think talking about real life issues like choice, relationships, deadlines etc is a great way to connect with an audience on a struggle level that they're dealing with AND Bring in the principles as well. It could be a book about relationships, a video about deadlines, etc etc. I think we need way more of that out there because most advice on this is just plain non principled and thus less helpful than it can be.
This is key. Thanks for sharing, Henk 😊
 

willow

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This was an email to Brett but I figured it deserves a separate forum post:

I noticed that someone recently wrote a book about communication and leadership.
It had 27 tips that the book presented. I`m sure they're great tips.

The response to that book is pretty good, people get it, want to improve something, and buy the book.

I think perhaps, in starting with the most general way about the principles is actually hurting the message, at least on the invitation part. Reason being is that it takes a looong time to get a sense for their use, and only those who find those, and KEEP tracking the principle get the actual benefits. Everybody else, I imagine, just wonders how this relates to them, can't see it yet, and trail off.

This TED talk for example shows a very clear case why people 'seem' to be unhappy even when they get more choices. The talk sais: The key to happiness is low expectations. If you expect nothing you'll be pleasantly surprised and you won't go and compare your endless choices that you could've had. (link to ted talk, no need to watch, just wanted to make it available:
)

I thought immediatly of the neutrality of the principles that completely undermine that line of thinking. But I would not write an article about the neutrality of the principles, I would write an article about happiness and choice and THEN use that deep layer of the principles as my logical backbone.

Meet people where their at with their wants/needs/desires but make the point on a principled level, creating a seamless transition from their wants and needs to rock solid universal answers.

I think talking about real life issues like choice, relationships, deadlines etc is a great way to connect with an audience on a struggle level that they're dealing with AND Bring in the principles as well. It could be a book about relationships, a video about deadlines, etc etc. I think we need way more of that out there because most advice on this is just plain non principled and thus less helpful than it can be.


Further thoughts Very welcome. and if this line of thinking helps you, please use it for yourself.
can I see your article on choice and happiness!! LOL I wouldlove to read it through 3 p eyes
 
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